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I am a 32-year-old man set to tie the knot in May. Despite my love for my fiancée of three years, I have been grappling with thoughts and fantasies about her sister for some time now.
These conflicting emotions have left me questioning the decision to get married, causing significant stress and sleepless nights. I only recently met my fiancée’s sister, who had been living abroad until a year ago.
Now that she is back home and living with her parents, I find myself spending a lot of time with her. We share a great rapport, and her fun-loving nature resonates with me deeply. I am drawn to her charisma and beauty, which is tearing me apart.
Despite keeping my feelings to myself and never intending to disclose them, the dilemma persists. How can I commit to marriage if thoughts of her sister dominate my mind?
This unforeseen situation has me wishing she had never returned from Australia, and I had never crossed paths with her. Please, offer your guidance.
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It is evident that this situation is off-limits. Even if the wedding is called off, pursuing any romantic involvement with your fiancée’s sister is strongly discouraged.
It appears that her sister’s return from Australia has brought forth an aura of carefree charm and allure, but she likely views you solely in the context of a future brother-in-law.
Drawing from personal experience growing up with five sisters, I can emphasize the delicate nature of sibling relationships. Attempting to disrupt this dynamic could lead to irreparable consequences. If doubts persist, it may be wise to postpone the wedding for introspection and open communication with your partner.
While this decision may seem daunting, it is preferable to inconvenience others temporarily rather than enter a marriage plagued by uncertainty. Commit to banishing thoughts of her sister to safeguard your relationship and prevent unnecessary chaos.
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